The New Man

Is sex a source of frustration with your partner? Do you feel sexually rejected by them? And if you don’t push for sex, will your partner ever initiate it? Many folks — too many folks — are unsatisfied with their sex lives. This can be a huge source of frustration and resentment between partners, which can ultimately lead to affairs or divorce. But does it have to be this way? Ruth Ramsay is a sex educator, coach, and creator of a TED talk that has garnered millions of views. She’s seen inside the sex lives of many people, and today she’s going to help us understand why sex is so challenging as well as what we can do to make it less frustrating and more fulfilling.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/02/sexual-rejection   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluste

Do you struggle with spirituality? If you stay off the naughty list, does the Universe give you what you want like Santa Claus? And why can spirituality feel so threatening to some folks? Today Alyson and I discuss some of the ways folks relate to the unseen, mysterious world of spirituality. We explore how this relates to our fear of uncertainty, our need for control, and why some people — including me — struggle with spirituality.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/02/struggling-with-spirituality   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you believe you need alcohol or some other crutch to function at your best? Do fears like imposter syndrome or stage fright ever completely go away? And is it still worthwhile to be generous and kind? Randy Blythe is best known as the vocalist for the metal band, lamb of god. He’s spent decades making records and playing to massive audiences all around the world. He’s also just another guy you might see surfing. That’s how we’ve become friends. Today we dive into his new book of essays, Just Beyond the Light and his difficult path of sobriety. We also discuss how, after a fan lost his life at a show in the Czech Republic back in 2010, Randy chose to face trial when he could have found a way out. If you enjoy gritty stories, stick around and consider picking up his new book.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/01/randy-blythe-just-beyond-the-light   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit ht

Is there a voice in your head that says you need to make a change? Do you experience scarcity if you’re not always making more money? And what can you do if the things that used to light you up feel empty now? Today Alyson and I discuss what we can do when we feel out of alignment with our lives. We talk about why we don’t need to beat ourselves up, what really holds us back from making a change, and why feeling “not enough” is really an invitation to get out of the shallow end of the pool.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2025/01/feeling-stuck   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life

Does it feel like your life is on hold until you figure out your purpose? What’s the real reason many folks are driven to be wealthy? And why do so many “successful” people feel burned out and empty? Dr Jordan Grumet returns to The New Man to discuss what many believe is the key to their fulfillment — purpose. He’s got a unique experience of being a doctor who helps people at the end of their lives, and he’s also a popular financial podcast host. This means he sees the gap between what is driving so many of us to be wealthy and what really matters. He’s written a new book called The Purpose Code that I love. It strips away the magical thinking BS and drills down to reveal what purpose and meaning really are. The result is a framework we can all use to do more of what we love, spend time with the people we love, and enjoy the precious time we have on this planet.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/12/purpose-code-jordan-grumet   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https:

Is it normal for you to forget things until someone nags you about it? Do you ever wonder why your relationships seem shallow or you miss out on career opportunities? And what does this all have to do with brown M&M’s? Today Alyson and I talk about people pleasing, nice guy syndrome, and how being checked out is killing your sex life and career. We discuss the dangers of transactional relating, why the little things matter and how you can become more trustworthy simply by saying “no” more often.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/12/people-pleasing   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk throu

Are you devoted to anything other than money, security, or status? Does living with an open heart make you weak? And how is staying guarded killing aliveness? I grew up guarded and armored. For many years, I thought it was necessary and strong to cut myself off from emotional vulnerability. The truth is that I was fragile and incapable of being in emotionally challenging situations. That way of living almost destroyed me. For the last 20 years I’ve watched my wife Alyson navigate life very differently. She’s one of those rare few that can effortlessly disarm people and help them access their own hearts. Her strength in emotional situations is inspiring. It’s her superpower. So is this just something she was born with or is it a skill that she’s developed? I’ve always wanted to know but never asked. Until today.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/12/being-guarded   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lani

Are you the best lover your partner has ever had? How could you ever be sure? What if they preferred having sex with someone else more than you? And is sex a place where you strive to prove that you’re good enough? Today we talk about feeling jealous about our partner’s sexual history. We explore what drives that insecurity, how neediness is repulsive, and why trying to prove you’re a rockstar in bed is a big mistake.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/11/jealous-about-sexual-history   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Is a lack of confidence your worst enemy? What does it mean to develop mental, emotional, and spiritual strength? And how does accepting death make you stronger? Jiu Jitsu legend Rickson Gracie returns to The New Man, and we dive into the deeper topics from his new book with Peter Maguire called, Comfort in Darkness. Rickson wasn’t just a devastating opponent in the ring, he’s also a teacher that draws from a deep well of wisdom and intuition. He goes far beyond the mechanics and fundamentals to help others face their fears so that they can discover just how strong and capable they are. Today we discuss what he calls “Invisible Jiu Jitsu” and how we can all utilize it to become mentally, emotionally, and spiritually powerful.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/11/rickson-gracie-comfort-in-darkness   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world wit

Do obstacles mean you're on the wrong path, or are they simply part of the journey? Is the universe conspiring against your dreams, or is it just your own fear holding you back? And what can you do if you’re struggling to find motivation or inspiration? Whether you're questioning your career path, second-guessing a major life decision, or simply feeling stuck, you’re bound to experience doubt and resistance. In this episode, we discuss finding your calling, facing inner resistance, and the fear that we might be heading in the wrong direction. And we also explore ways to keep moving forward, even when the path ahead seems uncertain.   https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/10/overcoming-resistance   COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leav

What’s the common link between workaholism, greed, and love addiction? Does your sense of self worth go up and down like a rollercoaster? And is there more to life than protecting our egos? If you’re like everyone else on the planet, then you’ve probably struggled with feeling “enough.” Today Alyson and I dive under the hood to discuss Terry Real’s unhealthy forms of self-esteem so that we can all understand what kills our true confidence. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/10/workaholism-greed-love-addiction COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/b

If you’re angry, is it better to bottle it up or lash out in retaliation? Do you get stuck in a loop thinking of things you should say to that jerk who pissed you off? And how is emotional constipation draining our aliveness and motivation? In this conversation, Alyson and I discuss the problems that arise with anger. For many, we feel stuck — if we say something with anger it might make the situation worse. But if we bottle it up, we become a toxic balloon that could burst at any moment. So today we explore what really drives our anger in hopes that we can find a more productive way to deal with it. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/09/dealing-with-anger COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and un

Is our drive for more money, more status, or more stuff really just an attempt to fill a God-sized hole in our lives? Do you ever feel awkward when expressing love to others? And how does our need for safety block us from having satisfying relationships? Today Alyson and I try to understand why love can be so challenging to receive. We discuss the ways we armor ourselves to avoid vulnerability and how we can still feel alone even when we’re with others. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/09/feel-empty COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Are you with someone because you really want them or because you’re more afraid to be alone? Are you settling for junk food relationships that never satisfy and leave you feeling empty? And how does loneliness drive us to choose lousy partners? Relationships are hard and the only way to learn is to get in the mix. Today Alyson and I find some friction when it comes to dating and playing the field. We also discuss how we’ve helped ourselves and others face their loneliness so that they don’t have to settle for lousy partners. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/08/fear-of-being-alone COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few

Is the purpose of therapy to just dig up junk from your past? We talk about why many folks — including therapists we know and love — find the conventional form of therapy to be limiting. Is there another possibility? https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/08/frustrated-with-therapy COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Can a nerd become a stud? Alyson and Tripp react to a movie called The Hitman and the topic of reinventing ourselves. This leads us to discuss pickup artists, neutered men, and handling our inner critic. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/07/reinvent-yourself COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

Do you trust your gut when making decisions? Author, entrepreneur, and former Navy SEAL commander Mark Divine (Uncommon: Simple Principles for an Extraordinary Life) discusses the power of embracing our emotions, intuition, and spirituality. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/07/mark-divine-uncommon COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. → Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book

What’s going to happen to you after you die? Is death something you ignore or something you use to enjoy your days more? And are near death experiences proof of an after life or just the brain going apeshit because it’s losing oxygen? Sebastian Junger is no stranger to death. As a war correspondent he survived an IED attack on his vehicle and spent a grueling stint in the treacherous Korengal Valley of Afghanistan. But in 2020 he came face to face with his own mortality in a very different setting. At home. With his family. And this brush with death shook him much, much deeper because of what — and who — he saw at the threshold into the unknown. In this discussion, Sebastian shares his amazing story and most importantly how his near death experience has shaped the man he is today. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/06/sebastian-junger-near-death-experience COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit

Do you feel pressured to get married because you’ve been with someone a long time? Are you and your partner kicking the can down the road so you don’t have to face the reality of your challenges? And how much longer can you tolerate your relationship if it doesn’t change for the better? Today’s question comes from someone whose relationship is stuck in a rut. Their sex life is boring. They avoid difficult conversations, and he feels pressured to get married even though he has zero desire to commit. Is it possible to get things on a better trajectory? https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/06/pressure-to-marry COACHING   → To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com → To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com   BOOK   → We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a g

Is FOMO driving you to constantly be busy, busy, busy? Is it scary to admit that the hustle and grind is killing your motivation? And when is our resistance trying to help us? Today Alyson and I discuss motivation, resistance, and the cult of success. We talk about how it’s necessary to learn how to thrive in the world, but ultimately we have to stop jumping through hoops, forge our own path, and create success on our own terms. https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/2024/05/motivation-success-resistance COACHING - To learn more about coaching with Tripp Lanier visit https://TrippLanier.com - To learn more about working with Alyson Lanier visit https://AlysonLanier.com BOOK - We live in a world with more possibilities than ever before. So why do most men settle for lackluster, cookie-cutter lives that leave them feeling stuck, drained, and uninspired? _This Book Will Make You Dangerous_ is a guide for the rare, few men who refuse to sleepwalk through life. - Visit https://TrippLanier.com/book