Beat Your Genes: An Evolutionary Psychology Podcast For Finding Happiness In The Modern World

episode 81

On Air Session w Listener & Dr Lisle

Overbearing parents, Does sibling birth order matter, facing death

A google engineer wrote a memo explaining biological differences between men and women.  

Child prodigies, Cat-fishing, Being born w  a deformity

Some fun listener questions 

Helping friends/family, self-confidence vs. self-esteem

Millenials

Parenting styles, Millenials, Bringing back purpose

We'll go over an interesting study, some listener emails/questions. 

Tonight's episode:  - Two recent studies  - Listener emails - A very funny caller with a great question

Dr. Lisle talks with a listener during an on-air session about life direction, identity, and finding happiness. 

1.  If evolutionary psychology considers parental investment theory and the investment in kin as essential why do so many people in the West keep animals.  2.  I used to get really upset when my partner watched . I have relaxed and now feel like it's not the worst thing he can do and will not end my relationship so I shouldn't get upset. What do you think? 3.  Can a person's placing on the agreeability continuum be situational? I believe I am more or less disagreeable depending on the dynamics of different relationships. Is there anything a disagreeable person like me can do to Beat My Genes and become a nicer person. 4.  Previously, you've mentioned the thing that matters for a woman's pair bond value is her physical attractiveness, and that the female is objectively 1 rating more attractive than the male, who comes with resources. I know a few couples where the male is significantly more attractive than the female, and in which the female has greater resources to offer than the male. This sort of pair bondi

 Explaining enablers, dating with psychiatric disorders, and having grit

Part 2 of Dr. Lisle's interview on Andrew Taylor's Spud Fit podcast.  He disusses the Myths of Moderation along with the Ego Trap with regards to making healthy lifestyle changes. 

We'll get to know a little more about how Dr. Lisle became a psychologist and how he learned about evolutionary psychology.  This is Part 1 of a two-part interview.  Stay tuned next week for part 2. 

I'll read a follow-up email with one of our listeners. And some fun questions from our listeners this week as well.  We will try to get to as many as possible.

Our caller just got a new job and his new supervisor insists on micromanaging everything he does.  

Question we will try to get to: 1. Is the concept of self limiting beliefs the same as ego traps in evo psych? Why do these occur? 2.  My boyfriend and I are very nice people (very agreeable). Frustrating and funny at the same time. We have a problem figuring out what we want, since our first reaction is to please other people. But because we are not alone in the world, what happens a lot is that our decisions are made by others... We decided to try to have a baby. There is simply so much written and said on how to raise a child and even what’s best for pregnant women. I’m panicking even just by looking down this hole. Since we are both highly conscientious  as well, I’m afraid of falling into “read everything, talk to everyone, worry about advice that don’t go well together and try to find the perfect solution”.  Your last  shows sort of comforted me. If almost everything is in the genes, then I don’t have to worry as much about bringing up a small child. So my two questions would be: Do you have any special

Listener questions we will try to get to for today: 1. For a successful first date, Dr. Lisle said the goal is to not get ruled out.  I'm using online dating and it seems like every time that I've met a girl that meets my standards physically, we'll have a pretty good first date, but then when I try to set up another date I usually hear from them that they didn't feel a connection.  Based on what you guys talk about in your podcast it leads me to believe that what they're saying is an inoffensive way of saying I wasn't physically attractive enough myself.  But I remember Dr. Lisle mentioning in his advice for guys that we want to take advantage of the repeat exposure effect.  How do I take advantage of this effect when I'm consistently told there's no connection from the woman after we've only gone out on one date.  And as a side question, has online dating ruined the repeat exposure effect since people feel obligated to judge others for romantic potential very quickly. 2.  Why does so much anger exist from g