The Chick Whisperer Podcast

Co-Host Christy Kerns (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/luma) My first-time guest is Christy Kerns, who is the VP of Client Relations at high-end matchmaking firm Luma Luxury Matchmaking. Christy oversees the entire group of matchmakers over at her firm, so she has plenty of insight into how dating and relating has changed in recent months and years. My first question to her is why almost all matchmakers are women...and her answer makes perfect sense. From there, her very first two comments on what has changed since the pandemic were indeed ones I hadn't given much attention to as of yet, and they're both fascinating takes. How have daters actually become more patient in recent years, despite the fast-pace in general of post-modern reality? And what is really behind the trend of older women looking for younger men nowadays? What are the subtle changes that have occurred because of that bigger change of people having become far more politically-focused than in decades past? And what is the current state of peopl

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === Whenever most men happen to encounter a woman they'd say is a '10 out of 10', they automatically rule out any possibility of attracting her at all, let alone girlfriending her. But this Snippet From The Summit serves as a 'wake up' call to both our confidence and our logical grasp of such situations. For starters, women you consider 'tens' might not be as unattainable as you might think...for several reasons. What's more, when you get her attention the RIGHT way, you actually have a BETTER chance at KEEPING it than you do even with 'average' women. Here's the surprising--and confidence-inspiring--reason why . More at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. I discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, I'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service yo

Co-Host Dr. Thomas Jordan (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/jordan) An increasingly disturbing trend is toward unabashedly transactional relationships between men and women. But what does that even mean? My returning guest is Dr. Thomas Jordan, a clinical psychologist and love live researcher who may be the very best guy to answer that question. Dr. Jordan (you can call him Tom) and I talk first about the reasons why relationships have moved away from concepts like, oh...intimacy and connection, and more toward what each respective party can get out of the deal. Is there any wonder the divorce rate is so high? Well, as it turns out, there's more there than meets the eye...and it's fascinating. What is the connection between transactional relationships and what Tom calls 'defensive relationships'? And is it possible to have a purely transactional relationship even if the two of you have 'fallen in love'? What if the person you want to serve your needs in a relationship actually has needs of their own...but both

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === Picture this... You're at a social gathering and you see some other guy talking to exactly the woman you had your eye on. She's laughing, hitting him on the shoulder and, well...looks like she's thoroughly attracted to him. But here's the thing...every time YOU finally get the chance to talk to a woman you really want, you never see ANY of those signals. What's going on there? Well, as this Snippet From The Summit clearly demonstrates, you're probably in for a surprise...and it's the best kind possible. More at https://mountaintoppodcast.com    

Co-Host Marcus Oakey (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/marcus) My returning guest is British charisma coach Marcus Oakey, who is exactly who you need to help you get past small talk with people, and especially get through that awkward 'cordial' stage that ensues. What is it exactly about cordial small talk that's lacking, and what kind of conversation is it we should actually be moving toward instead? And what if you're indeed pretty good at making conversation with people, but still encounter some who are virtually impossible to talk to? Is it YOU, or THEM? And in such cases, where can you find small talk out of nowhere when you need it? And what do you do if you don't get the desired response from the other person? Do you have to be a brilliant conversationalist to be a charismatic presence? When it comes to early-stage conversation, how can we as men unwire our competition mindset, as if every interaction is going to be a win or a loss? The truth is you can achieve true connection and rapport with people and

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === Some guys give themselves a false sense of empowerment by blaming women for everything that goes wrong in relationships. In their estimation, any man who tries to 'do better' in a bad situation with a woman is acting like a weakling. But doesn't that leave us perpetually at an impasse when it comes to potential success with women? There's got to be a way to improve our ability to attract women and earn their respect than simply kowtowing to the ones who hammer us with double-standards. And fortunately, there indeed is. More at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. I discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, I'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appr

Co-Host Dr. Avrum Weiss (https://www.mountaintoppodcast.com/avrum) The first time my guest Dr. Avrum Weiss was on, he threw down some enlightening yet challenging ideas about not only HOW we as men tend to be afraid of women, but WHY. This time, he returns to go into more detail about how even those of us who THINK we're pretty much fearless out there with women are hamstringing ourselves when it comes to success with women. As his book's title says, much of this self-sabotage happens in plain sight. What's more, women themselves also see our fear...and yet typically offer little to no help in letting us see our own proverbial forest for the trees. Why is this all apparently so simple, yet so complicated at the same time? Well, Avrum starts off by explaining how we as men experience fear of women as opposed to how women perceive it. As much as we associate fear with the attraction process and dating, where does most of it REALLY come from? Then we explain exactly why so many men attract 'average' women withou

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === It happens to every one of us. You meet a woman who in almost every way is beautiful, sexy, altogether sane and...well, PERFECT for you. EXCEPT ONE. And man...if she'd just change THAT one annoying habit or attraction faux pas, everything would be perfect. Well, what should you do? Should you just deal with it, or is there a workable strategy to affect the change? The answer--as in all too many scenarios in this life--is it depends. That's what we'll cover quickly and concisely in this episode. Oh, and by the way...what if she announced to YOU that there's just ONE THING about YOU that drives HER nuts? We've got that covered as well. More at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. I discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, I'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate t

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/coach) First and foremost, if you think even for a second that this episode is going to be about two dinosaurs reminiscing about the past, you're in for a surprise. Given how Emily and I have been totally immersed in dating and relationship stuff for nearly 20 years, we've had our fingers on the pulse of how men and women relate for a LONG time. On top of that, with a milestone high school reunion coming up this year, I've found myself thinking about how dating and relating has evolved...and surprised myself with a few key revelations. With all of that in mind, Emily and I have an honest, eye-opening conversation featuring straight talk about what we're GLAD isn't going on anymore. And yes, we also find a few examples of really good stuff that used to happen that just doesn't anymore. For instance, what good has online dating and the proliferation of Internet dating advice done...but at what cost? How did 'hookup culture' change the game? How about pharmaceu

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === You don't hear me talk about women in bars and clubs very often. As it turns out, there are plenty of good reasons for that. Not only do the PUAs tend to have that covered, most of you guys listening to this show are NOT pickup artists anyway. So why is it, then, that so many of us are left to believe that the advice for attracting women out on the town in Los Angeles or Miami will work with the kind of women we REALLY want...in the town we REALLY live in? This is the take many of you might have been waiting YEARS to hear. Find more at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. I discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, I'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texa

Co-Host Jillian Romero Chaves (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/clara) My guest Jillian Romero Chaves is the founder and CEO of an app called Clara For Daters, which she emphasizes is NOT a dating app. As an active dater and a dating advocate herself as a single woman, she developed Clara as a tool to empower dating app users to get the most out of their rapidly-declining experience. Now, it's no secret that the vast majority of dating app users are indeed growing more disillusioned--if not flat-out disgusted with--their lack of success nowadays. But are dating apps indeed worth saving? With people's social muscles still atrophied out there as much as ever, Jillian is looking for ways that online dating apps can somehow start serving their users better. In fact, her optimistic hope is that the apps will start seeing their customers as daters instead of mere users. What does she mean by that, exactly? And since Jillian is dedicated to cultivating genuine, in-person social connections, she feels compelled to conf

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT ===  The media and society at large tend to dictate what we are to find sexually attractive. You may have noticed that already, but have you ever noticed how what we're told to consider attractive almost always has ONE tricky feature in common? Meanwhile, I will PROVE in this brief Snippet From The Summit how what we as men have been trained to consider sexy and appealing isn't always what REALLY turns us on. Not only is that perfectly fine and normal, other languages even have words to describe this whole phenomenon that don't translate into English. Meanwhile, women out there are still brainwashed into trying to fit societal 'standards'...often to the detriment of real sexual attractiveness. More, as always, at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. I discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, I'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the enter

Co-Host Chris M. Lyon (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/lyon) My guest is a coach certified in applied neuroscience and brain health, and the author of Leading and Supportive Love: The Truth About Dominant and Submissive Relationships. She joins me in this episode for a long-overdue discussion on the nature of dominant/submissive sexual relationships. Starting off with what she refers to as 'a 101 for vanilla people', she explains dominant and submissive personality traits that aren't well known. For example, dominant partners aren't the same thing as domineering. They can often be sensitive and caring. Is dominance a distinctly masculine frame? What if Chris told you that most dominatrices are actually submissives? And what if she told you that people who are dominant partners are typically very good followers, team players, etc. at work and/or in other social environments? So then, what IS dominance and submission really about when it comes to relationships? Listen in as Chris explains how and why both roles

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === I fully get that plenty of guys out there are fed up with the state of dating, and even to the point of being fed up with women in general. The thing is, now there's a potential replacement for women out there...and although it seemed farfetched at first, it's apparently gaining momentum. But will the new really outweigh the conventional? Or were the futurists actually behind the times in their predictions? Tune in this time for the weird and potentially terrifying story NOBODY dares to speak about, except me of course. More, as always, at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. I discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, I'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in

Co-Host Sureya Leonara (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/sexenergy) My co-host this time is my new friend and holistic sex coach Sureya Leonara from Asheville, NC. Yes, Sureya is exactly the kind of female 'sexpert' you guys always love when they're on the show. And the topic today is one of those that can't fail. We're talking about how to exude sexual energy every day, so there's zero percent chance this was ever going to be a boring, neuter episode. And true to form, Sureya gets going immediately explaining how we as humans are not only born from sex, but made OF sex and basically primally tied to it in every facet of our being. So obviously, you can't confine sex to the bedroom. It truly is an all-day, all-night thing. That also means if we've been somehow shamed, disappointed or even damaged by sex, it should be a priority to heal from that. Sureya then explains the perhaps ironic truth about how exuding sexual energy starts with steps that aren't necessarily overtly sexual at all. When women wonder aloud

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === A trend has developed in today's young adults that undermines both the quality and level of fulfillment to be had from male/female relationships. It seems we weirdly WANT it this way, even though frustration is inevitable. Could it be that the latest generation of young adults has actually been socially conditioned to accept this 'cheapened' state of affairs? Is there any chance we can reframe our perspective in order to get back to our primal, archetypal roots as men and women? More, as always, at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. I discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, I'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

Co-Host Michael Lassen (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/lovefreedom) We all know that as men we need a strong identity and a sense of purpose. That, of course, leads to us being compelled to make a stand for what we value and believe in. But in post-modern Western culture where every social media account is a potential media outlet, and the iPhones go up at the slightest hint of public drama, we're confronted with having to weigh the costs and benefits of our so-called 'freedom of speech'. My returning guest Michael Lassen is an out-of-the-box thinker on most everything, and now that he's also a singer/songwriter, he considers himself to have a special freedom to, well...stand up and speak out. In this power-packed episode, we hit the ground running by explaining why we need to free our mind and speak up sooner than later, and earlier in life than we may even feel comfortable with. Moreover, we need to be ready at all times to do so. Do you have to be an 'angry young man' to make a stand? Or wait a minute, can

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === Online dating apps aren't working, and haven't been for some time, actually. And men and women in social circles freely hang out and complain about the state of dating and relating...yet none are actually asking each other out. Ultimately, it's often not necessarily that men and women are mad at each other and bitter, but hoards of people are GIVING UP on dating anyway. And meanwhile, they're STILL daydreaming about finding love and living the dream with someone. What are we doing to ourselves? And how do we get out of this weird trance? https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. I discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, I'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Te

Co-Host Dr. Laura Gabayan (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/wisdom) Knowing that you guys tend to LOVE the episodes where we apply science to social dynamics, I've found a true expert in the field of the scientific basis for human wisdom. Dr. Laura Gabayan is both a medical professor at UCLA and a social scientist. As she embarked upon studying the subject of this episode, she recognized that all major religions talk about wisdom and many famous people have written about it, but she was taken aback as to how subjective, if not purely anecdotal, all the information out there was. She craved more objectivity so she set out to evaluate wisdom herself in a more, well...scientific context. She interviewed sixty of the world's wisest people over the course of several months, and arrived at eight scientifically provable elements of wisdom. We kick off this fascinating conversation by talking about what Laura discovered during her research. Do we as men really 'mellow with age', or is something deeper really going on t

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === Yeah, yeah...'women are like cats and men are like dogs'. We've all heard that before and know what the point is. But if you think about how men and women relate to each other nowadays, we as men aren't really functioning like dogs...at least not in the best way possible. In reality, we're taking on more of a...um...bovine role. What in the world do I mean? Well, maybe I'm completely out of my mind, but give me about nine minutes to convince you of what's really going on out there, how we need to get back to our roots, of sorts, and how doing so will benefit everyone involved. https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The content in this show is NEVER generated by AI. I discovered it can't handle a joke a long time ago. Meanwhile, I'll keep the practical, actionable ideas coming as well as the entertaining part...all for free. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second)