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Get more information on The One You Feed Coaching Program. Enrollment open until May 25th     The #2 Mistake Most People Make When Trying to Change Behavior: Dropping Old Behaviors Without Putting Something In Their Place Nature abhors a vacuum. Behaviors that have been done frequently enough that they have become habits are things that are now done mindlessly or effortlessly during our day. If at a certain time of day you do something and then all of the sudden you stop doing that thing, you are now left with a slice of time that was filled and is now empty. When faced with that empty space of time, it’s going to be really hard to resist doing the thing you’ve become habituated to do. So, put some other behavior in it’s place. In addition, a lot of our “negative” behavior patterns happen for a reason. There is something that they are doing for us (or did at one time). Removing them without some sort of substitute leaves a need unmet. For example, let’s say that everyday when you get home from work you have a

This week we talk to Robbie Vorhaus about following your heart Robbie Vorhaus is widely recognized as one of the top three reputation and crisis experts and advisors in the world. Robbie’s path is fascinating: On the outside, renowned crisis expert and communications strategist, Robbie Vorhaus’ life appeared ideal: a New York City Park Avenue apartment, a home in the Hamptons, two adoring children in world-class private schools, and a thriving PR agency representing world leaders, celebrities, sports stars, entrepreneurs and Fortune 500 companies. Privately, though, his life was falling apart. A marriage in trouble, jeopardized health, and financial pressures culminated on vacation when his family asked: “Dad, are you really happy?” Realizing he was in peril of losing everything he held dear, Robbie courageously followed the advice he had given clients for decades: Follow your heart. Choose to be happy. And consciously make everything better than you found it. The result: Vorhaus closed his agency, moved his

The #1 Mistake Most People Make When Trying to Change Behavior Starting Too Big The key to making lasting change is to break things down into really small steps. Most people want to start at point A and jump to Point Z but you don’t get there overnight. Break the new habit down into the smallest possible increments and be specific when planning each step along the way. In the beginning the most important part of behavior change is to be successful. This increases your motivation and makes you want to do more. If you start small it is much easier to “succeed” and build from there. For example, let’s say you want to take up a meditation practice. Instead of trying to meditate for 30 minutes a day, start with 3 minutes. Then once that becomes a daily habit increase it to 5 minutes, etc. As Leo Babuta of Zen Habits says “Make it so easy you can’t say no.” On one of our earlier episodes Dan Millman discussed the importance of “starting small and connecting the dots”. You will be amazed at what a series of small st

This week we talk to Mary O'Malley about awakening to the world around us Mary O’Malley is an author, teacher, and counselor whose work awakens others to the joy of being fully alive.  Her inspired and transformative approach to compulsions offers a way to replace fear, hopelessness and struggle with ease, well-being and joy. Through her individual counseling and coaching, books, classes, retreats and ongoing groups, Mary invites people to experience the miracle of awakening. Acknowledged as a leader in the field of Awakening by many Mary clearly sees both the big picture and the details of human patterns and conditioning.  She possesses an extraordinary ability to understand and connect with people. And she is skilled in empowering people to work with difficult mind states resulting in greater inner awareness and presence and a greater capacity for joy.  Eckhart Tolle says, “Thank you, Mary, for your contribution to the evolution of human consciousness.” Her latest book is called What’s In the Way, Is the Wa

This week we talk to Dan Harris and Oren Sofer aboutmindful communicationOur guests this week are Dan Harris and Oren Sofer. Dan was a previous guest and we discussed his great book, 10%Happier. In addition, Dan is the current anchor on the weekendedition of Good Morning America as well as Nightline. He has begun creating a series of courses based around 10%Happier. One of those courses features Oren Sofer. Oren is a teacher and practitioner of Buddhist meditation,Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and Somatics. Oren is a specialistin the role of mindfulness in creating better conversation. This conversation was recorded in Dan's office in the ABCStudios in New York.  Our Sponsor this Week isCasper MattressVisit casper.com/feed and use the promo code“feed” to get $50 off!! In This Interview, Oren Dan and I Discuss:The One You Feed parableWhy mindfulness is useful in communicationThe10% Happier appLearning to see confrontation as an opportunity to improve therelationshipHow our cultural conditioning teaches us th

This week we talk to Colin Beavan about being happy ANDchanging the worldColin Beavan’s writing, speaking, consulting and activism haveencouraged tens of thousands of people to examine their lives todiscover what’s really important to them.He is among the world’s best-known spokespeople on environmentalissues, consumerism and human quality of life. He was called “oneof the ten most influential men” by MSN, an “eco-illuminator” byElle Magazine, a “best green ambassador” by Treehugger.com, and hisblog was selected as one of the top 15 environmental blogs by TimeMagazine.Colin has appeared on The Colbert Report, Good Morning America,Nightline and countless other TV and radio shows.Colin’s latest book is How to Be Alive: A Guide to the Kind of Happinessthat Helps the WorldIn This Interview, Colin Beavan and I Discuss:The One You Feed parableThe illusion that we are separate from this worldHow to give energy to what is true for youHow to give less energy to what is not true for youHis experience as "No Impact Man.

This week we talk to Steven C Hayes about getting out of our minds and into our livesSteven C Hayes is Nevada Foundation Professor at the Department of Psychology at the University of Nevada. He is an author of over 35 books and over 500 scientific articles. He is considered one of the founders of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.In 1992 he was listed by the Institute for Scientific Information as the 30th “highest impact” psychologist in the world. His work has been recognized by several awards including the Exemplary Contributions to Basic Behavioral Research and Its Applications from Division 25 of APA, the Impact of Science on Application award from the Society for the Advancement of Behavior Analysis, and the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies.He is best known for his book Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy In This Interview, Steven C Hayes and I Discuss:The One You Feed parableHis book, Get Out of Your M

This week we talk to Aaron Anastasi about not listening to the voices that hold us backAaron Anastasi is a Southern California native who graduated with a master’s degree from Princeton where he studied philosophy and psychology.He’s also a serial entrepreneur with online businesses such as Superior Songwriting Method, Signing Success, and the internationally recognized, Superior Singing Method, an online singing lesson program that grosses seven-figures annually.Having a love for adventure, he was a pro snowboarder in Vail, Colorado, scaled Glacier Lake mountains in Bolivia, and cut pathways through the jungles of Contagem, Brazil.Along with being a Los Angeles based actor and filmmaker, Aaron is also a prominent success coach for clients in industry-leading roles, ranging from film directors to marine biologists to TEDx speakers. His new book, The Voice of Your Dreams,was recently released.In This Interview, Aaron Anastasi and I Discuss:The One You Feed parableThe limiting voices in our headThe "You don't h

A native of South Dakota, Robert Sessions earned a B.A. from Drake University and a Ph.D. in philosophy from the University of Michigan.  Before focusing on photography, for more than four decades he taught at Kirkwood Community College, Grinnell College, Luther College, and the University of Minnesota in Duluth.As a photographer he works frequently with his wife, travel writer Lori Erickson. Together they produce Spiritual Travels, a website describing holy sites around the world, and Holy Rover, a blog hosted by Patheos, the world’s largest website on religion and spirituality. His photos also appear regularly in publications that include the Cedar Rapids (Iowa) Gazette and Group Tour Magazine. He is a member of the Society of American Travel Writers.In addition, Sessions is the author of Becoming Real: Authenticity in an Age of Distractions and co-author of Working In America: A Humanities Reader.  He has also published several dozen articles on environmental philosophy, the philosophy of work, ethics, and

This week we talk to Rick Heller about secular meditationRick Heller is the author of the new book, Secular Meditation: 32 Practices for Cultivating Inner Peace, Compassion, and Joy — A Guide from the Humanist Community at Harvard.Rick leads weekly meditations at the Humanist Community at Harvard.Rick received a master’s degree in journalism from Boston University. He also holds a master’s degree in public policy from Harvard’s Kennedy School of Government and a bachelor’s degree in electrical engineering from MITIn This Interview, Rick Heller and I Discuss:The One You Feed parableHis new book, Secular Meditation: 32 practices for cultivating inner peace, compassion & Joy (A guide from the Humanist Community at Harvard)How in the brain, two negatives do not equal a positiveWhat a "Humanist" isA secular view of meditation & mindfulnessOther types of meditation other than breath focused meditationHow there's no such thing as an inherently negative stimulusWhat face meditation isHow the muscles in your f

This week we talk to Rebecca Newberger Goldstein about the relevance of philosophy in today's worldRebecca Newberger Goldstein is an American philosopher who is also a novelist and public intellectual. She is the author of ten books, many of which cross the divide between fiction and non-fiction. She holds a Ph.D. from Princeton.Her latest book is called Plato at the Googleplex: Why Philosophy Won't Go Away, an exploration of the historical roots and contemporary relevance of philosophy. In the book Plato is brought to life in the 21st century and demonstrates the relevance of philosophy by arguing with contemporary figures such as a software engineer at Google headquarters, a right-wing talk show host, an affective neuroscientist, and others.Goldstein is a MacArthur Fellow, has won the National Jewish Book Award, and numerous other honors. In September of 2015  she was awarded the National Humanities Medal by President Obama in a ceremony at the White House. In This Interview, Rebecca Newberger Goldstein and

This week we talk to Tara Mohr about playing bigTara Mohr is an expert on women’s leadership and well-being. She helps women play bigger in sharing their voices and bringing forward their ideas in work and in life. Tara is the author of Playing Big: Practical Wisdom for Women Who Want to Speak Up, Create, and Lead, named a best book of the year by Apple’s iBooks and now in paperback. In the book, she shares her pioneering model for making the journey from playing small–being held back by fear and self-doubt–to playing big, taking bold action to pursue what you see as your callings.Tara is the creator of the Playing Big leadership program for women, which now has more than 1,000 graduates from around the world, and creator of the global Playing Big Facilitators Training for coaches, therapists, leadership development professionals and other practitioners supporting women in their personal and professional growth. A Coaches Training Institute-certified coach with an MBA from Stanford University and an undergrad

Real change is possible but it takes time- Keep Trying! JK Rowling was broke and depressed and her book had been rejected by 12 different publishers. This was right before Harry Potter was finally accepted and hit the big time. It took me three different attempts to finally achieve sobriety. Gone with the wind was rejected 38 times. Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance was rejected 121 times Edison famously tried 1000 different approaches before getting the light bulb right. We often cite these examples as encouragement to keep trying at things like business or success. What if we applied the same principles and tenacity to our internal development? What if we kept trying at emotional and mental change? We have to do this stuff over and over again, change takes time. There are no easy answers or shortcuts to a life worth living.Our sponsor this week is FractureVisit Fracture and use the promo code “wolf” to get 10% off!!    The Tale of Two WolvesA grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says ther

This week we talk to Dr. Gabor Mate´ about addictionGet a free download of Eric's key quotes and ideas from Dr. Mate's work. A renowned speaker, and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress and childhood development.For twelve years Dr. Maté worked in Vancouver’s Downtown Eastside with patients challenged by hard-core drug addiction, mental illness and HIV, including at Vancouver’s Supervised Injection Site.As an author, Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction; When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress; and Scattered Minds: A New Look at the Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder, and co-authored Hold on to Your Kids. His works have been published internationally in twenty languages.Dr. Maté is the co-founder of Compassion for Addiction, a new non-profit that focusses on addiction. He is also an advisor of Drugs

Make Better Decisions using Solomon's ParadoxKing Solomon was said to be wiser than anyone in Egypt.What we don't hear, is that while Solomon was great at giving advice to others, he was notoriously bad at dealing with his own life issues, ultimately bringing ruin upon the kingdom.If look closely at ourselves, we’ll see that we all have this same flaw. This behavior is so common  it has been given a name — “The Solomon Paradox”.Igor Grossman's research that founds the basis for this mini episode.   Our sponsor this week is FractureVisit Fracture and use the promo code “wolf” to get 10% off!!  The Tale of Two WolvesA grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather and says, “Grandfather,

This week we talk to Barry Mangione about how there are no easy answersBarry Mangione is an author, musician, podcaster, life coach, and pediatric physical therapist.Barry was once a struggling alcoholic suffering from depression, failed relationships, and bankruptcy. He even came close to suicide, but he now enjoys a life filled with creativity, service to others, and abundant possibilities.In his Self-Help Rockstar Show podcast, he features music, interviews, and his own brand of self-help advice in order to raise self-awareness and to inspire people to go out and live their best lives every day.In his self-help book No Easy Answers: A Book of Life-Changing Questions, Barry shares his personal success story with readers so that they, too, can achieve personal transformation.Barry is also currently in the studio recording an album of rock songs to carry his message of hope and healing to music lovers everywhere.Barry lives in New York with his wife and their family, who are all firm believers in the paleo di

This week we talk to Mark Nepo about the mysteries of lifeMark Nepo is a poet, philosopher and cancer survivor who has taught in the fields of poetry, health, and spirituality for forty years. A New York Times #1 bestselling author, he has published numerous books and audio projects. Mark has appeared with Oprah Winfrey on her Super Soul Sunday program on OWN TV, and has also been interviewed by Robin Roberts on Good Morning America.His book The Book of Awakening is considered a modern spiritual classic. His latest book is called Inside the Miracle: Enduring Suffering, Approaching WholenessOur Sponsor this Week is Spirituality and Health Magazine. Click here for your free trial issue and special offer. In This Interview Mark Nepo and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableThinking of things as life affirming or life draining versus good and badHow none of us really understands the mystery of lifeHow controlling and counting cuts off our access to the present momentResisting inflating or deflating ourselvesThe re

This week we talk to Mirabai Starr about grief and healingMirabai Starr writes, speaks and leads retreats on the inter-spiritual teachings of the mystics.Known for her revolutionary translations of John of the Cross, Teresa of Avila, and Julian of Norwich, Mirabai renders mystical masterpieces accessible, beautiful, and relevant to a contemporary circle of seekers. Her commentaries on the interconnected wisdom of all traditions are lyrical and evocative.Mirabai builds bridges not only between religious traditions, but also between contemplative life and compassionate service, between cultivating an inner relationship with the Beloved and expressing that intimacy in community, between the transformational power of loss and longing for the sacred.Her latest book is called Caravan of No Despair Our Sponsor this Week is MeetMindfulVisit MeetMindful and get a free trialIn This Interview, Mirabai Starr and I Discuss:The One You Feed parableWalking the landscape of loss in a genuine wayLearning to be present even wh

This week we talk to Chris Grosso about Everything MindOnly the third repeat guest on the The One You Feed, Chris Grosso is a public speaker, writer, and author of Indie Spiritualist: A No Bullshit Exploration of Spirituality and Everything Mind: What I’ve Learned About Hard Knocks, Spiritual Awakening and the Mind-Blowing Truth of it All.He writes for ORIGIN Magazine, Huffington Post, and Mantra Yoga + Health Magazine, and has spoken and performed at Wanderlust Festival, Celebrate Your Life, Yoga Journal Conference, Sedona World Wisdom Days, Kripalu, and more.He is a member of the advisory board for Drugs over Dinner and hosts The Indie Spiritualist Podcast on The Mindpod Network. Our Sponsor this Week is Wisdom Publications. Click here to explore their offerings In This Interview Chris Grosso and I Discuss...The One You Feed parableWelcoming Mara inHow there is no end point in lifeHis new bookHow spirit surrounds us in all aspects of lifeHow spirituality includes the dark sides of ourselvesFinding spiritual

The Second Arrow “The Buddha once asked a student, “If a person is struck by an arrow, is it painful?” The student replied, “It is."The Buddha then asked, "If the person is struck by a second arrow, is that even more painful?” The student replied again, “It is.” The Buddha then explained, “In life, we cannot always control the first arrow. However, the second arrow is our reaction to the first. The second arrow is optional.”Eric describes the parable of the Second Arrow and how it to makes things worse.Our Sponsor this Week is Spirituality and Health Magazine. Click here for your free trial issue and special offer.  The Tale of Two WolvesA grandfather is talking with his grandson and he says there are two wolves inside of us which are always at war with each other. One of them is a good wolf which represents things like kindness, bravery and love. The other is a bad wolf, which represents things like greed, hatred and fear.The grandson stops and thinks about it for a second then he looks up at his grandfather